When it comes down to it you don’t claim her with chains or whips, or pain and humiliation. Those things are enjoyable and allow for great upheaval but you really make her yours in the aftermath. With small gestures and a gentle touch. With adoration and tenderness in your every move.
When you make her feel like your princess you become indispensable in her heart.
How it feels living with anxiety
I have never read such apt descriptions (jmm)